The matching red dresses were too much. It was enough that the photo of my ex wrapped in the arms of another woman only days after our breakup was going viral on Facebook. As a forty-something lesbian, I know I can’t live in a state of perpetual loneliness, plagued with the burden of my own failure in finding happiness and love, all while she gleefully posts about her happily ever after. So, I decide to set out on a mission to heal, move on, and find the one. And, I would use my meticulously crafted checklist to make it happen. But, no matter how many items I add to, and then check off, my list or how much I follow the sagely wisdom of legendary rapper—Eminem, my breakup coach, and the psychics, my hope in finding my one true love begins to fade away . . . until I’m suddenly torn between two.
By Corey Seemiller
What Prompted My Journey
Despite having experienced widespread professional success, in 2021, my long-term relationship came to an abrupt end, sending me into a tailspin. My efforts to analyze, organize, and micromanage my way from heartbreak to healing resulted in the writing of my memoir. Thus, while everything else in my life was going to plan, my love life was chaotic, and my Type A, Virgo, perfectionist self tried voraciously to get control so I could move on and find “the one.”
What Drove Me to Write the Book?
As a lesbian, I know first-hand that there are very few books that validate the life experiences, relationships, and heartbreak of women who love women. I know because I was on an endless search for them when I was suffering heartache. When my seven-year relationship came crashing down, I was left scrambling for anything that could help me feel in control. I needed information, validation, inspiration . . . whatever would make the pain subside and allow me to move on and find love again. I binged podcasts and audiobooks, but nothing fully reached me. So, I chronicled my heartbreak to healing journey as it was happening. Writing this book as my life unfolded was wholly authentic, raw, and unscripted, leaving me not knowing the ending until I felt that the story reached what felt like its natural destination. My hope is that my story inspires readers to love themselves, missteps and all, as they go through or reflect on their own journeys from heartbreak to healing to the possibility of love again.
Who is This Book For?
Most people want to move through heartbreak and find lasting love. And, many, including me, would do just about anything to make that happen. For those reading this book while suffering heartache, I want them to feel like they aren’t alone in their desperation to gain control of the ambiguity, unpredictability, and confusion surrounding their situation. Maybe, through my journey, they can see that all of that is simply part of the healing process . . . even with the best laid plans. While not every reader will be in the midst of heartbreak or on a search for love, I hope that all will feel connected to my experience and validated in their own past healing journeys, as they navigate my sadness, hope, angst, embarrassment, absurdity, and joy. When the reader turns the last page, I want them to feel hopeful, inspired, and affirmed in that healing and finding love is never a direct journey, and that underneath that quest is often happiness hiding in plain sight.
Release Date
Stay tuned! The Soulmate Strategy: My Imperfect Plan to Conquer Heartbreak and Find True Love is set for release on February 10, 2026 through She Writes Press.